8/26/13

GoldDiggin'

Gold Digger: 1) A person that seeks to form relationships purely out of desire for personal gain.  2) An individual that uses relationship dating to get gifts and/or money from the other person.
Whether we’d like to admit it or not, money is still a big reason people choose to hook up.  Ana Nicole was one. Mike Tyson was supposedly married to one. Thousands of professional athletes have been hosed by one. Are they 'golddiggers'?  Beyond just wanting status and fancy things, many people simply feel trapped in relationships where one person is footing the bill.  Long ago, it was considered sensible for a woman to seek a good provider and families gave a Dowery for their daughter to a man of their choosing. Nowadays, we’re all expected to pride ourselves on our independence and choose (or mostly choose) someone for Love.  


Any interest in a man’s prospects can feel mercenary, despite the still-shaky economy and even though women still earn less than men (77 cents for every dollar).  The term golddigger summons up the image of 22 year olds kissing ancient lips hoping for a fast inheritance.  But, what about college students entertaining sugar daddies, who help cover their tuition only to ditch them upon graduation.  How about those women who want to be provided for so that they can focus on a dream career.  Is that 'gold-diggin' or is it just supply & demand?  Gold-Digging happens when women/men who don't have a pot to piss in seek out those who have great incomes to live off. Only to leave them when the well runs dry for another fluid prospect. Most times these are greedy people who want a lifestyle with all the amenities and have no desire to work for it. There are more than 50 shades of gray and any number of circumstances, in which women and men who lack resources enter into relationships they might otherwise not choose.  Or, is it financial insurance . . What are your thoughts?


8 comments:

  1. I think there should be a healthy balance of both, love and financial security. If you focus only on one, you'll surely miss the other. I also think a woman should be able to bring something besides a pretty face to the table as well. The entertainment and sports industry sometimes view things differently. Real life is not a reality show--true devotion and mutual support is more important and long lasting in any relationship.

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  2. You are so right on that Robin. Thanks

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  3. I am with Robin on that ,I think there should be a healthy balance of both.

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    1. For sure. . .thanks for reading.

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  4. My grandmother used to say, "it's best to be an old man's darling than a young man's slave" - is that a Golddigger? lol

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  5. there's a big difference in entering into a relationship with someone who can provide financial security compared to someone who enters into a relationship strictly for a lavish lifestyle that they otherwise couldn't provide for themselves. at any rate - the gold diggin' profession will be around for a long time.

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  6. I know sometimes when I shop, I wish I had a sugar daddy. I told my husband I wanted one (jokingly) and he said, If you get one can I borrow him too :)

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Thanks for Sharing your thoughts. . . I look forward to them!